Dating a separated man forums
(He was calling me nightly at 2, 3, 5 in the morning and leaving me voicemails saying he couldn't sleep, and asking me to meet with him to explain face to face why I didn't want to be with him anymore, and then he would cry and I would feel very bad and end up spending time with him so that he would not be so upset.) So this weekend he finally apologized and said he "got it" and he agrees.But since then it's like he's been in denial, he's very happy and he continues to find things to talk to me about and ask me if I want to do things with him, AFTER I repeatedly told him I couldn't see him anymore until his divorce.He also had to sneak around to be with me and I thought that if he was really separated with a mutual intent to divorce, he would not have to do that b/c she would realize he might be dating.After a couple months (in May) he moved "temporarily" into a furnished condo belonging to his friend's out-of-town parents, but he left a lot of his stuff and his dogs at the house he owns with his wife.In his mind because its something he has thought about, its fair game to tell you its happened.If I were you, to settle things in your own mind, I would try to get a glance of them together.I know I got myself into this mess because I work with him and I should have just stayed away. I have to see him every day at work and he is high up with the company whereas I am new and just starting out. The prospect sounds horrible because other than him, I love working here and there is nowhere else I know of to go (although I can look).Or should I just stay here and try to completely ignore him, or try to be civilized and professional?
His plaintive phone calls, more attempts to manipulate you, the attention at work like nothing is wrong, more attempts to manipulate you.I don't think he purposefully lied to me or strung me along, but I think he was also pretty naive and dillusional about the actual status of his marriage and what it would take to get divorced.They have still not filed for divorce although every week he tells me it will be a week or two and gives me things she says they have to do first (such as selling property and seeing a financial consultant etc.) He said he does not want to push things and make things "messy", he wants to do things the way she wants (but the problem is, I realize now, she doesn't want a divorce, so nothing is getting done.) I began to feel like I was waiting on her to accept getting divorced, because he doesn't want to be the bad guy, and I also felt very guilty once I realized that she doesn't really want to get divorced.Things could get worse at work, it wouldn't hurt to look around and see whats out there, even if things havne't really gotten to the boiling point yet.There is a segment of the male population who can look a woman right in the eye and tell the most outrageous lies.
And yet he says he loves me and wants to marry me (I've never been married), and I start to feel upset that he can so easily disregard a marriage of 15 years and tell me he wants to marry me while he's still technically married (even though he doesn't feel like it).